My twin boys graduated a couple of weeks ago from high school. My older son graduated two years ago. It was quite emotional and somewhat surreal to think that it is official…my boys are adults. Being a single mom and raising three teenage boys 24/7 with too much testosterone in house was not a piece of cake. I can say with some hesitation..it was worth the mental breakdown. (LOL) Looking back when they were babies, people often ask me how hard it must have been taking care of three toddlers (twin boys and another boy who is only 13 months older) during the day and most nights with no outside help. It was actually the most fun and most memorable time of my life. Our decision to quit my good paying day job to stay home with them was the best decision ever and would recommend it in a heart beat. Being there when they wake up in the morning, feeding all three at same time, the never ending changing of diapers, taking them to zoo, the museum, and even to the grocery store (yes, all three under 4 years old) was an adventure that I happily took on. As they moved on to their teens and the divorce, it made our lives a lot more challenging than ever. There were endless squabbling over chores, rules, behavior, anger, teen angst, etc. And now my kids are officially adults. The parent role has changed. The task of being a guide rather than a care taker to my children is a hard adjustment for me as I always enjoyed taking care of their needs. The big challenge for me is to prepare them toward independence and to make them understand what it really takes to be on their own. Like many teenagers living in this amazing community of ours and growing up in a comfortable home with their own bedrooms and swimming pool, they have not had much opportunity to experience what it’s like to work hard for what they want as I and my siblings did at their age. My boys are still trying to find out who they are. But, I know they are are caring, intelligent young men and I hope that they find what their true passion is and follow it. Although my care taking years are officially over, I feel there is more work in guiding them to the best of my ability in becoming the best men they can be. And, so my work continues.